I feel sex is the ultimate physical connection with another. A point where you are vulnerable and giving yourselves completely. In this state the only limit should one that causes discomfort beyond pleasure. To not do everything within your power to please your partner is withholding giving yourself completely thus cheapening the entire act.
On a scale from 1 to really f*cking important, I’d say sexual gratification is pretty high up there on the list.
Gini wrote a great article on how important it is for a guy to go down on a girl. Read the whole thing through the link above but in summary, go down on your partner. Explore every part of their body and never stop seeking their pleasure spots.
This article was more geared towards men going down on women but what I took from it was to completely give yourselves to each other. Being mindful of your partners pleasure each time will only increase both of your pleasure each time so what have you got loose?
Give it a try and please share your results with us for others to learn and grow as we all evolve in this path called life.